The Wedding Gown

Today we were going to look for my daughter’s wedding gown for the first time. A huge wedding gown sale had been advertised and she was determined that today she was going to find hers.

“I know exactly what I want,” Sarah said. “I want something simple, understated and elegant.”

And so the search began.

But after trying on at least nine or ten gowns, Sarah still had not found the perfect wedding gown. A frown now replaced the excited smile that had lit up her lovely face earlier that morning.

“Sarah, there’s still one more rack.”

She rummaged through the rack and soon she became excited and hopeful again.

“Look! I found two gowns I’d like to try on!”

Her cheeks were rosy with excitement and there was a smile of happiness on her face. I kept my fingers crossed.

The first gown was white and strapless with embroidered tiny pale violet flowers and small pearls in the center of each flower. The dress had an empire waist and laced up the back with a long train. For the first time that day, Sarah had stars in her eyes. The attendants placed a veil on her and tears began to well up in my eyes. All the attendants told her how beautiful she looked.

Sarah smiled. “I really do like this dress, but I think I should try on the last dress just to be sure.”

I thought: She’ll try on that other dress, but I think she’ll probably keep this one.

The last dress was a sharp contrast to the other one. It was white satin with spaghetti straps and a scoop neckline. There was no decoration on it whatsoever. Around the waist was a band like a cummerbund with four folds and approximately six inches in width. The full skirt was A-line and down the back were 26 satin-covered buttons. The skirt bottom fanned out into a circular full train of about three feet. There was a matching short sleeve bolero jacket.

This wedding gown was simple, understated and elegant.

Then they placed a veil on her.

Sarah’s face was suddenly transformed. The stars were still in her eyes, but this time her face was beaming and she smiled radiantly. She had not looked this happy since the day she and Axel had announced their engagement to us.

“I love this dress, Mom! This is the dress!

“Sarah, you look absolutely beautiful!” I said.  I stepped up on the pedestal where she was standing and gave her a kiss on the cheek. “I love you so much, honey. You’re going to be a beautiful bride.”

The attendants were watching us and I could tell by the looks they exchanged that they were a_2011-04-25 03.51.55disappointed with her choice.  “Are you sure that you wouldn’t rather take the other gown instead?” one of them said.

I smiled as I shook my head. “You don’t understand my daughter at all.”

Sarah smiled as she stood tall. “Let me explain, Mom. I believe that it’s the bride who makes the wedding gown beautiful, not the wedding gown that makes the bride beautiful.”

I had never heard such profound wisdom before, and I had never heard my daughter ever speak such profound wisdom. I guess I never thought she was old enough to do so.

I beamed proudly as I gazed at my darling daughter, and then I sighed as I realized for the very first time that my little girl was all grown up now, and that she was going to be a beautiful bride, no matter what she wore.




  • I started the writing 101 tonight, and not really having time to read much, scrolled through the comments to read at least one blog. Funny that I chose yours and landed on this post. I have been booking weddings for about 2 years now and have been thinking I could be a wedding planner. This weekend, my worst nightmare came true. I got a call from one of my brides who had just called a wedding planner and it turned out that she had a wed
    ding to do at the same time/same place. I had booked 2 weddings on the same day! After many phone calls, tears, and panic on my end; one of them, with a little incentive, changed her date. Reading your post was inspiring and maybe I will still be a wedding planner after all. I hope you don’t mind if I use your daughters words, they were perfect. If I ever get to help with picking dresses, I will know to look at the brides face to determine the perfect dress.


    • Hi Jana! I’m touched that you’d like to use my daughter’s words; that is so lovely! I’m glad that they’ve inspired you. As a matter of fact, just reading your comments brought tears to MY eyes all over again! 🙂 Thanks so much for visiting by blog and I hope you have an amazing day!


  • Your daughter has a good head on her shoulders!


  • Wow! I loved reading how Sarah zeroed in of her gown and her beliefs are profound! Best wishes to her on her big day. She is beautiful inside out!


    • Aw . . . how sweet of you! I am so proud of her and I agree with you because I think my daughter is beautiful, too but I may be a little bit biased. What do you think? 🙂 I hope you have an amazing day and thanks so much for visiting my site. I do appreciate it.


  • Cheers to your daughter’s big day 🙂


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