A Change for the Better
We all go through changes during the course of our lives. Sometimes those changes are for the better, and sometimes, unfortunately, they’re for the worse. And many times the changes that we do experience are due to our circumstances, whether it’s the company we keep, the environment, or just the occurrences in our lives. But the question is: how do we adapt? What do we do in response to those circumstances? Do we let those circumstances make us become a better person or do we regret the person that we become? It’s a slippery slope, to be sure.
The person that I know who has changed the most over the years is my sister, Janice. She is the youngest of the seven of us siblings, and she has the usual “baby of the family” characteristics. As such, she has always received a lot of attention from everyone around her (I’m not saying this is a bad thing, it’s just how it is) and she was probably the closest to our mother since she was the last one to leave the family nest. She also had a tendency to have a lower amount of self-esteem. I think this stemmed from the fact that because she was the baby of the family, with six older siblings, she didn’t have to try so hard, and then later on, when she needed to succeed on her own, it was more difficult for her.
Then Jan married her husband. They seemed to be happy together. Before long, she was a mother of three children, but her husband started drinking heavily, and their idyllic life together turned into a bad dream for her. She found herself having to take care of everything alone – she was working, but had to take care of the household, the bills, the kids, everything – by herself. And she was unprepared, especially after being used to being the “baby of the family.” She had to grow up very quickly. She was even abused by her husband. But still, she stuck it out.
After several DUI’s and spending several weekends in jail, her husband’s driver’s license was suspended for five years. He finally woke up, realized that he was about to lose everything because of his alcoholism and quit drinking. Today he is one of the nicest people you’d ever want to meet.
You may think that my sister’s husband is the one who changed the most, but in reality, it is my sister Jan who truly did all the changing. She became more independent, stronger, wiser, dependable, understanding, mature, and yes, even compassionate. Her circumstances forced her to become the woman that she is today. And although it was a long and difficult road, she is all the better for it. And I am so proud of her.
QUOTE OF THE DAY: “Time is a dressmaker specializing in alterations.” ~ Faith Baldwin